This is the most unplanned blog post I’ve written thus far (more unplanned than my “Why I’ve Always Been Single” post, which you should totally check out if you haven’t yet). Plus, who doesn’t like two posts in one week?
Anyway… this is something I just really need to get off my chest.
I posted this picture on Instagram because, in college, it’s been hard finding people who really get me. We’re all weird and unique, and it’s difficult finding people whose weirdness complements mine instead of clashes with mine. I think I’ve found a couple of people, but I can’t be too sure; it’s barely been two months.
I feel like this is going to sound like a bunch of gibberish, but that’s okay. My thoughts are gibberish sometimes.
My friendship with Maria works for different reasons, and one of them is definitely not because we are similar. Part of the reason it works is because we can share our opinions, and it won’t explode into a huge argument. The only time we’ve had a problem (that I can remember) was when I said some things that I didn’t know I said but ended up hurting her feelings (again, screw up=me). We can listen to each other and talk to each other and disagree with each other and have diffrent opinions but not be ticked off because our opinions and values are different. We respect and value each other’s opinions.
Something else we don’t do is purposely try to change each other. Of course, sometimes I find myself saying things she says, and she taught me how to roast people back. However, I don’t try to change her, and she doesn’t try to change me.
Don’t think this me comparing my precious friendship with Maria to the new ones I’m developing; it’s not.
I just wish people would let me be me the same way I let them be them. Don’t try to force me to be who you are. You are who you are for a reason, and the same goes for me. Just because people are different from you and share different views that you don’t understand, does not mean you can make other people be like you. Does that make sense? I hope it does.
Another thing: my opinion is my opinion. Your opinion is your opinion. Our opinions are diffrent but not wrong, so don’t tell me my opinions are wrong.
I know sometimes I say things people don’t want to hear, but I’m just speaking my mind. I’m candid. I know we have different lifestyles and viewpoints, but I’m not going to force you to morph into someone like me; you shouldn’t force me to be like you.
I think this is something (amongst many other things) that’s important in any relationship, whether it be with a friend or with a significant other. Respect and value each other’s opinions and values instead of forcing them on each other.
One last thing: there’s a difference between making a suggestion and making a demand.
Let me be me while I let you be you.