The Romantic Individualist

Enneagram Type 4

Remember when I took a bunch of online quizzes?

Well, one of the tests I took was the enneagram personality test, where I was a 98% match for type 4, sometimes called The Individualist and sometimes called The Romantic.

Since finding out my enneagram type, I have been doing small deep dives into figuring out everything I can about my personality type. I wanted to share all my research, as well as resources so you can read about your enneagram type if you’re also interested in things like this.

Before we begin, I want to note that I share a lot of traits with The Romantic Individualist, but I am not a 100% match. We are all unique individuals. Also, I don’t purposely try to match the stereotypes and statistics of my enneagram type. I am who I am and just find this stuff interesting.

  • Basic Fear: To have no identity
  • Basic Desire: To be unique, different
  • Motivated and Energized by:
    • Building connections and relationships
    • Taking time to reconnect with themselves
    • Expressions emotions through art
    • Feeling valued and accepted
  • Random bouts of inspiration
  • Learn something new about their own feelings
  • A playlist of songs for rainy drives
  • Making something new and beautiful
  • Discovering a new artist
  • Feeling understood
  • Having honest conversations
  • Authenticity
  • Meaningful traditions
  • Being told they are unique
  • Nature
  • Making memories with people they love
  • Casual or meaningless conversation
  • Parties and large groups of unfamiliar people
  • Conflict
  • Noise
  • Lack of personal creativity
  • Feeling misunderstood
  • Actor
  • Personal trainer
  • Hair stylist
  • Writer
  • Photographer
  • Designer
  • Artist
  • Dance instructor


  • Creative
  • Expressive
  • Sensitive
  • Emotional
  • Introspective
  • Artistic
  • Authentic


  • Sensitive to feelings
  • Self-aware
  • Appreciative of beauty
  • Empathetic
  • Compassionate


  • Moody
  • Temperamental
  • Prone to melancholy
  • Self-absorbed
  • Self-indulgent
  • Intense
  • Unsatisfied with What Is

Top Three Love Languages (days before I found this out, I was talking about my love language with someone, and it’s literally an exact match for my enneagram. I was shooketh.):

  1. Quality time
  2. Physical touch
  3. Affirmation

Wants From Love:

  • Partner who is patient with fluctuating emotions
  • Necessary guidance as a gentle nudge
  • Timely and honest feedback and advice
  • Sincere compliments and words of encouragement
  • An enduring sense of peace and gratitude
  • Reserved
  • Creative yet subtle
  • Dresses based on their mood
  • Firm believer in jean jackets
  • Vintage
  • “Wears what will make them feel comfortable”
  • “Uses artistic abilities to express their style”
  • Shoes with attitude
  • Jeans, probably cuffed

I decided to create three different outfits based on the style associated with The Romantic Individualist. However, I’m still on the hunt for the perfect oversized jean jacket.

I do enjoy secondhand clothing and the challenge that comes with styling them like they’re not secondhand. The red men’s shirt is from Goodwill, and the overalls are a hand-me-down from a relative. To dress up the super casualness of the outfit, I incorporated navy and neutral wedges from JustFab.

The subtle way I show my creativity is through really cool pants and/or shoes. These pants are high-waisted paper bag pants from New York & Company. To really make the pants stand out, I paired them with a simple black bodysuit from TJ Maxx. The shoes are platform sneakers from JustFab that match this fit perfectly.

For a reserved and super comfortable look, I like these cuffed boyfriend jeans from Old Navy. They work perfect with this sherpa hoodie I got from Seek Discomfort (seriously the softest thing I own). To dress the outfit up a little bit but still keep with the casualness, I chose these white platform sneakers from Joie.

  • Constance Wu
  • Meryl Streep
  • Prince
  • Judy Garland
  • James Dean
  • Vincent Van Gogh
  • Bob Dylan
  • Edgar Allen Poe
  • Frida Kahlo
  • Amy Winehouse

This concludes my compiled enneagram four, The Romantic Individualist, research. I will have all the resources linked below, including a link to a Pinterest board where I got some of this information and images used on the featured image.

Be you. Be true.


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